What your triggers are trying to tell you

The other day I found myself triggered. Properly frustrated and out of sorts. It's not my usual state, so it caught my attention.

The queue that broke me

I was stuck in a long queue. The volunteers running it were sweet but very unprepared. As the minutes dragged on, my frustration bubbled over. Grumpy, irritable, and way more annoyed than the situation warranted.

So I asked myself: what's this really about?

The answer? My childhood. My dad hated queues. He'd make us stand in separate lines, racing to see who could get to the front first, so we wouldn't have to deal with his frustration.

For little me, queues became a high-stakes game. Keep Dad happy, or face the fallout.

Fast forward to now, and even though Dad's no longer around, that little girl in me still feels the pressure to "fix" the situation.

The clue is the size of the reaction

Are queues life-or-death situations? Obviously not. But the emotional response from back then felt very real.

That's how you spot an old pattern. The feeling is far bigger than what's in front of you.

Shifting the energy

Here's what I did to help:

• Energy healing to clear the old pattern.
• Tapping (EFT) to ease the emotional charge.
• Inner child work, to give that little girl some reassurance and love.

Next time I'm in a queue, I'll check in and see how it feels. If anything's still lingering, I'll repeat the above.

The gift of triggers

Getting triggered isn't fun. It's also an opportunity. Every time it happens, it points to something we can heal.

That's where the magic lies. Turning an old pattern into calm and freedom.

Try it yourself

• What set me off recently, more than it should have?
• How old did I feel in that moment?
• Who does this remind me of?
• What did I learn I had to do back then to stay safe?

If you're feeling stuck with your own triggers, I'd love to help. You don't have to do it alone. See how healing sessions work.