Articles on healing, patterns and intuition

The same situation, a different face. What a pattern is, how to spot one, where they come from and how they heal.

You've done the healing and the job, relationship or business is still getting harder. Is there more to heal, or is it time to go? How to tell.

When you grow, you can put up walls or you can show people a new way to be with you. A gentle middle path that keeps the relationship.

The pull is real. That doesn't make it destiny. Three things an intense connection can be, and how to tell them apart before you change your whole life.

Being nice at your own expense isn't kindness. Where people-pleasing comes from, why boundaries bring on the guilt, and words you can use.

You long for someone steady and keep falling for hot-and-cold. There's nothing wrong with you. Your nervous system is reaching for what's familiar.

They seemed perfectly nice, so why are you exhausted? How to tell when your energy is being pulled, and seven ways to get it back.

The thing we want most is the thing we're most defended against. How the wall works, and how to let one thing through.

You can trace a pattern right back to where it started, explain it beautifully to a friend, and still do it again on Thursday. Here's why.

The same boss. The same partner. The same friend who drains you. It's a pattern, and it usually started long before they turned up.

The same relationship with a different face. Why it keeps happening, where the pattern starts, and how it clears.

My teenager came home talking about metacognition. It turns out the most practical gift of spiritual work is the space between reaction and response.

A long queue had me far grumpier than it deserved. When I asked what it was really about, the answer was a little girl and her dad.

My dad's motto was "say yes to everything and worry about the details later". Here's how I learned to tell a true yes from a people-pleasing one.

The beliefs holding you back are hiding in plain sight. Have a rant, listen back, and catch every "always", "never" and "because".

A belief is a thought you've had so many times it's become invisible. How beliefs quietly run your life, and how to start loosening them.

Anger isn't a spiritual failing. It's information. What happens when you bypass it, a simple way to release it, and what sacred rage really is.

Guilt convinces you that if you feel bad for long enough, you'll be absolved. It doesn't work that way. How guilt weighs on us, and how it releases.

Guilt says "I made a mistake." Shame says "I am the mistake." Where we brace against being seen, and how shame starts to let go.

Mindset works brilliantly for a while and then quietly stops. Your conscious mind is the tip of the iceberg. The mass is underneath.

Healing is messy and layered, more cha-cha than straight line. A map of the nine stages, so you know where you are is okay.

At 39 I was burnt out, drowning in a struggling business and had completely lost myself. What changed, and what I'd tell that woman now.

I tried everything for years. Some of it worked, some didn't. None of it fully landed until I started working with the energy underneath.

You can wash the car, but if you drive through the same muddy puddle every day it gets dirty again. What makes a clearing hold.

You've read the books and can name every pattern, and you still feel stuck. Healing happens in the body, not the mind. Here's the way out.

Healing is like cleaning a filthy windscreen. The cleaner the glass gets, the bigger the last few splatters look. Here's what that means.

You won't find it on their website, but you'll feel it. Why a healer's own inner work matters, and what to look for when you choose one.

Single-incident trauma is often far less complicated than people imagine. Why your body is still reacting, and what happens when the charge clears.

The body has usually been holding the story for years before the mind says it out loud. What I often notice in the hips, neck, throat and skin.

I used to give readings and guidance. I don't any more. Here's why healing took over, and why I think it serves you better.

People often wonder if healing can work when they're not in the room with me. It does, and sometimes better. Here's why, in my clients' words.

The vow to protect a small child can feel like control to a teenager. Why our closest bonds need updating, and the one question to ask.

Some children read the room before they can speak. How sensitivity becomes a lifelong pattern of carrying others' feelings, and how to support it.

We teach our kids how to treat their dreams by how we treat ours. Why waiting for "one day" is a pattern, and how to start small.

Grief and stress that never get felt don't disappear. They get handed down. How I'm releasing what my grandmother carried, and what it means for my kids.

Picture the first tree that comes to mind. Tall or small, alone or in a forest, bare or in leaf? What it shows about how you see yourself.

New directions rarely arrive as big revelations. They arrive as a thought that keeps returning. How to tend it without needing the whole plan.

"Find your passion and make it your career" has left a lot of people feeling like failures. Two honourable ways to live your soul's work.

You don't need to know exactly what you want. Purpose isn't a job title. Start with the feelings that make you come alive and let them guide you.

The right path tends to open doors. The wrong one tends to build walls. How to read resistance, and why hesitation is sometimes alignment.

I think the big moments are locked in. How hard they land is up to us. The more you clear, the less drama life needs to get your attention.

Your guides don't step in unless you ask. When to ask, what to ask for, and why the simple act of asking starts things moving.

Energy builds up in a space just like dust does. Seven easy ways to clear your home and workspace, including my favourite: clapping.