What are patterns, and why do they keep repeating?

I could talk about patterns (and heal them with clients) all day. Here are the questions I get asked most.

What are patterns?

Patterns are situations that turn up again and again in your life.

You might leave a job because of a nasty boss, find a new job, and then, after the honeymoon period, find yourself in a similar situation with someone new. It's the same energy pattern in a different body.

How do you spot a pattern?

Quite simply, the same thing keeps happening!

If it concerns a person, remove the attachment to the person and look only at the problem. If it's a pattern, you'll find it's the same issue you've experienced repeatedly.

Why do we have patterns?

Our subconscious runs our lives, and it needs a kind of map to do that. Imagine flying across the world without navigation. It would be impossible!

When we're young, from before we're even born until around age seven, our subconscious is recording. That recording becomes the playlist for the rest of our lives.

When we're little, we don't have adult reasoning. We can't look at a situation and say, "Oh, Mum and Dad had to work, so I understand they can't spend as much time with me as I'd like."

What the subconscious records is the young child's reaction. Perhaps something like "Nobody cares about me. I'm not important. They wouldn't even miss me if I wasn't here."

That young child's response then guides the rest of our life, bringing in negative beliefs and feelings of sadness, hurt or abandonment. Until we heal!

Can patterns start later in life?

Yes. The one exception is trauma. Trauma can start a pattern at any age. Sometimes that trauma links back to something in childhood, and the trauma needs to be cleared first.

I had a great childhood, so why do I have patterns?

What happened in childhood is relative to each person. A serious trauma can cause lifelong patterns until it's healed. So can not getting the game you wanted for Christmas, if that was out of the ordinary for you.

When it comes to patterns, there's no scale of hardship. We know children can have tantrums for any reason at all!

How do I heal my patterns?

Spotting them is the first step. Once you know what they are, you can journal, meditate, or use any number of clearing techniques.

If you're ready for a quicker, more direct approach, I'd love to help you. With my clairvoyance I can uncover hidden patterns and complete the healing with you.

Read more about clearing relationship patterns, or see how healing sessions work.